Wiley's Wisdom

Joy: From the Ground Up

You’ve Got a Friend In Me March 29, 2013

Guy friends are underestimated if you ask me. I mean, everyone always talks about the sisterhood of the traveling collars, but I’m not so sure. Guys are simple. We see things for what they are and usually say so.

I’ve recently been spending a little extra time with my guy pal Diesel. Six months ago, I was bigger than him and now he’s bigger than me. I suppose size doesn’t matter in friendships though, so I digress.

From what I’ve seen and heard about gals, that’s not always the case. I don’t mean to generalize as I’m certain not all gal pals are the same. But I do think there is a certain encouragement of judgmental thinking and unreasonably high standards for things I just don’t understand.

Diesel and Me

I’ve struggled with this lately on my journey with Simple Abundance. I “cheated” recently and looked ahead a few days and it’s more of the same commentary on low self-esteem and finding your inner fashion sense. I may not identify with the message, but I certainly agree.

I’m all for outfitting our authentic selves in a way that empowers us to conquer daily life, but I don’t appreciate the pressure generally put on women in our society to present better than they might actually feel. I mean, some days you just want to laze around and be comfortable. Those days shouldn’t have to come with pressure to look or act a certain way.

Diesel and I have this thing we agree on that I think makes us the friends we are. Our moms are pretty great, even if they occasionally don’t think they are. I know the pressures of the world are tough on women, and as a result challenge their relationships with each other.

That’s what I like about being a guy. We can be lazy. It’s almost expected some of the time. I might be simple, but in my opinion simplicity opens a door to emotional openness that provides purpose to what some may see as laziness. We have all kinds of extra emotional energy to spend on making sure the womenfolk in our lives feel special.


9 Responses to “You’ve Got a Friend In Me”

  1. scrapydo Says:

    Hear,hear! From a male point of view I agree. We boys have a certain way of letting go and also going for it! My friend Jack and I are like that. We enjoy each others company but… female joining the fun. No ways! LOL Mr T

  2. I agree with you Wiles. Have a good Easter.

  3. So true, Wiley. There is a certain ….simplicity to being a boy. Not so with us girls. Mom has already picked out a dress for me to wear to visit the Veteran’s Home for my therapy work this afternoon. Yellow seersucker with a pink flower on the front. I think the old guys will like it. That’s how we girls have to think…..

    Love and licks,

    • Dear Cupcake, you need to know the joy you are bringing into your peoples’ day with your outfit and your love! That, my dear friend, is priceless sharing of joy! 🙂

  4. I completely agree with you Wiley! I’m so glad to be male! The girls get so hung up on silly things! Bisous Bailey

  5. Reblogged this on Wiley's Wisdom and commented:

    This made me realize how much I miss my Diesel since he moved away to Minnesota with his forever people. I think mom and dad miss the people too. 😦

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