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Joy: From the Ground Up

This Time Around April 9, 2013

I wonder sometimes if I can really call myself an optimist if I believe in second chances. Heck, what if I believe in third, fourth and fifth chances? Doesn’t that afford a certain negativity in the underlying reality that a second, third or fourth chance means admitting failure at some point? Today I realized it is (in fact) the opposite.

“Today, declare to the Universe that you are open to receiving all the abundance it’s patiently waiting to bestow,” Sarah Ban Breathnach writes in Simple Abundance. “Each day offers us the gift of being a special occasion if we can simply learn that as well as giving, it is blessed to receive with grace and a grateful heart.”

Like most things, opportunities are all about perspective. Just as the glass can look half empty to one person What Do You Say To Second Chances?and half full to another, a second chance on something can be a blessing instead of an admission of failure. April is Prevention of Cruelty to Animals month, so what better opportunity to root for second chances for animals all over the world? Beaten, abused, and neglected animals deserve a second chance too, and believe me – they don’t see it as an admission of failure.

There is this thing about being a rescue dog. Like many, I was beaten, abused and neglected before I learned how to turn fear to purpose in my life.

I found rescue in the shelter of the humane society. I would call that my second chance. I was adopted and the family decided I wasn’t a good fit for their situation, so I found rescue in the shelter of the humane society. Again. I would call that my third and fourth chance. It wasn’t until my fifth chance with my forever family that I found my true purpose in life. Time with my forever parents has made me realize how much more powerful my joy is when shared with others, and to bring purpose to some of the things in life that used to frighten me.

But I wouldn’t say those first few chances were completely for naught. Indeed I would argue the opposite. I learned valuable lessons in each of the paths I’ve taken in life, and I wouldn’t trade any of those experiences for all the dog treats in the world.

A second chance is a blessing, not a disappointment. As such, I think an optimist would believe in second chances, not because of the inherent understanding of failure in the first opportunity, but because the glass doesn’t get emptier with each try. That’s the point of optimism, isn’t it? To see the glass half full (of potential, happiness, and all other good things) regardless of how full it might actually be?


18 Responses to “This Time Around”

  1. Cheers to you my dear Wiley ~ for I’m a glass 1/2 full gal myself ~ and I believe in hope, optimism and as many chances as needed! Most of all, I believe in finding happiness in the now. This is a beautiful post my dear puppy! Great job!

    • I’ve come to appreciate fellow optimists in life, my dear friend. Thank you for all you do for those who need to hear about second chances and happiness in the now! Loves and hugs to you dear pal. Shine on!

  2. Thank you for your wisdom Wiley! It took the fifth chance for me to find my Mama, and they were all worth it! Kuruk from Haiku By Ku. p.s. I have to use my Mama’s gravatar cuz she’s the typer. Wooowooo’s to you!

  3. Maria Says:

    RIght on Wiley – 2nd chance, 3rd chance… any chance is to be used to its fullest potential. Think you’re doing just that. Woof!

  4. You are so inspirational, Wiles. I love reading your thoughts and your quite right about second chances.

  5. I also believe in second chances and third and fourth and fifth chances. I was 3 years old before Mom found me. Nobody knows WHERE I was all that time. I’m happy my chances didn’t run out before I was adopted.

    Love and licks,

  6. A second chance is definetly a blessing and you Wiley are proof of it! 🙂

  7. Love this post Wiley. I’m putting your quote “a second chance is a blessing not a disappointment” on my desk to remind me every day of how truly blessed we are

    • Dear Diane….you should know it brings the brightest of lights to my life to hear any comment of mine has made it into someone’s day, let alone their desk! Please know you are loved and appreciated by this particular pooch!

  8. Jessica Says:

    What a great life lesson! To describe adoption as the ultimate example of second chances is spot on! Thank you for helping me see that this can also translate into my own life. I, too, deserve second, third, and forth chances in life. I should no longer dwell on the mistakes that I’ve made.

  9. […] said before that I am a believer in second, third, fourth and fifth chances. Furthermore, that I believe the opposite of the baseball metaphor that you’re out of chances […]

  10. Reblogged this on Wiley's Wisdom and commented:

    On opportunities and perspective.

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