Wiley's Wisdom

Joy: From the Ground Up

Getting to Know You September 5, 2013

It’s embarrassing to the wrong person. Not to me.

My mom has this habit of making friends wherever she goes. She looks them in the eye. She asks about their families. She gets to know them. Lana the customer service representative from Walgreens. Linda the administrative professional at the local school district. Mary the librarian. Georgia the checkout clerk at the grocery store.

Lana. Linda. Mary. Georgia. And that’s not all. I think dad finds it kind of silly, but I kind of like it. It stems from her belief in respecting the person behind the people you encounter every day.

And it happened again at the dog park today when we encountered familiar faces attached to both two-legged and four-legged personalities. She chatted with some of the other owners while I roughhoused with Luke (the Marmaduke), chased Lilly (the Carin Terrier mix), and (ahem) did some unspeakable things to an unprepared Beagle mix named Daisy.Giggles

Amidst the chaos of all of my usual dog park mischief, I heard her laughing with the other ladies and paused. I wondered in that moment what could happen if I too adopted this philosophy of putting myself in the stranger’s shoes. Being present with others, no matter how small a role they play in my life.

I took a long look at Luke, who (at the age of 12) has become somewhat of a legend at my dog park. He is wise in his older age, and is kind enough to humor little stinkers like me nipping at his heels. Lilly the Carin Terrier mix has a similar background to me, coming from a rescue. She is a big sister to two little people and (from what I can tell when we play chase) I’m sure she takes very good care of them. And Daisy. Well, she is beautiful. She reminds me of my dearest long lost (somewhat girlfriend) Taffy who lives far away now.

Luke. Lilly. Daisy. These are characters in my life, each with their own story making up their unique journey. I think that’s easy to forget sometimes, amidst the roughhousing, chasing and other distractions in our day. Sure, life is busy, but every now and then I need a reminder that life is busy for everyone. Every character we come across in our day has his or her own family and friends, stressors and joys.

It’s an interesting cycle really. The characters bring joy to my mom who brings joy to them. Because taking time to indulge in these little conversations can be just that. An indulgence in interpersonal relationships. And that’s nothing to be embarrassed about if you ask me.


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  4. That’s just great that you and your mom can make friends wherever you are! btw: what unspeakable things? I’m curious LOL

  5. Friendliness rocks. Whenever Mom stops to talk, I sit politely and wait. Except when I jump up and beg the new friend to touch me (that happens a lot). It sounds as if you and Daisy might be engaged….. Congratulations!

    Love and licks,

    • Dear Cupcake,
      Again you and I are on the same page – I too struggle to gain attention from mom’s new friends, begging for some ear scratches. I do love Daisy, but you’re still my best girl Cupcake. 😉
      Lots of love,

  6. huntmode Says:

    Oh, Wyles…. you’ve set that darn song off in my head (from the King & I)….. great post!

  7. Reblogged this on Wiley's Wisdom and commented:

    Life’s characters bring joy to my heart.

  8. kanzensakura Says:

    You would have liked my Pugsley cat. he never met a four leg that was stranger. He just opened up and welcomed everybody he met into his heart and world. He taught me a lot about that. I miss him. and you are such a cutie pie. it would be fun getting to know you.

  9. Lyn Says:

    Sounds like you and your Mom had a wonderful time at the park, Wiles. I can just imagine your Mom making friends everywhere she goes and taking time to talk to the checkout girl, the librarian…all of them. She just has that look about her with her lovely smile and eyes that say, “I care.”

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