Wiley's Wisdom

Joy: From the Ground Up

Write It On Your Heart September 20, 2013

It usually makes me kind of uncomfortable. If I’m being honest, I try to avoid it. But the more I thought about it today, the more I realized my avoidance and level of discomfort are nothing compared to the actual problem at hand. Complaining. I can’t stand it. I find myself getting upset when I hear complaints because (at least in my little doggie mind) I feel it is a useless waste of time. Why would you waste all that energy complaining when you could simply do something to rectify the problem?

Don't Worry, Be HappyI got my answer today when I looked out my front window to find my neighborhood feline friend Penny was back on my front doorstep. And she looked sad. I braced myself for the worst, thinking perhaps something had happened to her person Rose. Not quite.

Rose has been in poor health for some time, but she is all right. To Penny that’s part of the problem. She’s just all right. Instead of embracing that she’s still okay, I was surprised to find Penny complaining about how awful it is to see her loved one struggle. Dear Penny went on and on about how badly she wishes she could help somehow and the frustration she experiences because she can’t.

In that moment I realized why people waste all that time complaining. Life sucks sometimes. There, I said it. And when it does, the complaining develops a purpose all its own. It’s for good reason because sometimes there really isn’t anything you can do. And it isn’t fair. But there is always a silver lining.

In this case I think it comes from understanding the difference between optimism, realism and pessimism. In order to call myself an optimist, I must recognize within me the realist. The realism is reality in the making, but it is different from pessimism, which I avoid like the plague. The line between these things may be thin, but it’s made of steel to those who employ it.

I think that’s why complaining makes me so uncomfortable. It skirts around that line of negativity I prefer to stay away from. Instead I take the advice of my favorite transcendentalist thinker Ralph Waldo Emerson who encourages us to “write it on your heart that every day is the best day of the year.” Meanwhile, my mind knows sometimes its not. And there’s nothing we can do about it. That’s the realist in me. It’s a good thing my mind listens to my heart.

Related posts:

Negativity – The Silver Lining http://wileyschmidt.com/2013/02/21/negativity-the-silver-lining/

Penny For Your Thoughts http://wileyschmidt.com/2013/08/31/penny-for-your-thoughts-2/

 

19 Responses to “Write It On Your Heart”

  1. kiwiskan Says:

    big pat for that…

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  3. Great advice. It’s always good to leave your heart in charge, Wiles. You are smart to do that. A mind can too easily go the route of pessimism. The heart should always lead.

    Love and licks,
    Cupcake

  4. likeitiz Says:

    It’s hard to be around anyone with so much negativity. It’s actually exhausting.

  5. huntmode Says:

    Dear Wyles, having been away for a few days from your wisdom, coming home to multiple entries is a treat, at the risk of “boring” you with praise – are you bored, yet? Grin. You lift me up even when I’m in a good mood, Wyles. Thank you!

    • Dear friend,
      It means a lot to me that you visit me multiple times in a single day. And my purpose with this whole blogging journey is being fulfilled in your words – “you lift me up even when I’m in a good mood.” These words warm my soul and keep me going when things get…boring…if you can call it that. I don’t generally get bored per se, but blogging every day is definitely a challenge. And its one where I can’t always tell whether I’m losing my touch or getting repetitive or keeping interest of readers. So indeed…words of encouragement from someone like you brings joy to my heart that is fuel to keep sharing my joy from the ground up. Thank you for that.
      Lots of love,
      Wyles

      • huntmode Says:

        Long, long ago, I came up with the term of E.F.ing, which stands for ego feeding in the best possible way; never miss an opportunity to bell someone “Well done!” “You helped me.” “You made me feel so good!” What goes around comes around. I got the wood, you’ve got the fire in the belly, Wyles! And, I’ve yet to meet anyone who doesn’t love hearing a compliment. (even the shy ones – they take ’em out later and glow with ’em).

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  7. You are so right ~ as is Ralph Waldo Emerson! ♥

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  9. Reblogged this on Wiley's Wisdom and commented:

    I’m not sure I see a point to complaining.


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