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Joy: From the Ground Up

Try Try Again October 30, 2013

I had it out with the neighbor dog today. Twice. That’s right – Demon Dog and I had words. Well, I’m sure it sounded like barks to the outside observer. But I could no longer sit idly by and stare at him silently while he goes into his fits of rage from the other side of the fence. I had to do something.

Better to TrySo I walked myself (all right, okay, I ran myself) to the very end of the lead (about 30 feet from my backdoor, and about 20 feet from Demon Dog) and I said some things that needed to be said. I told him I don’t know why he’s so angry. I told him I wished we could be friends. That I would listen to whatever struggles he’d lived through and help him find some joy in new beginnings.

But it ended just like it started, with him pacing and panting and growling and snarling. He even digs around a bit at the hole he’s created underneath the fence that separates us. And his bark? Quite frankly it’s terrifying.

I tried again the next time I was outside, but it seemed to be in vain. Also, my people were very unhappy with my efforts as it is incredibly rare for me to bark at anything besides the animals that occasionally come into the living room via the television.

I don’t understand it. We canines don’t discriminate from one breed to another, but I guess people call his a bully breed. And my experiences have shown me why – not only with my neighbor, but also with the dog who attacked me at the dog park. I thought I was a goner that day when he had me by my collar dangling me around from his perch atop that picnic table.

Obviously I survived to tell the tale, but it bothers me that these dogs – these bullies – are out there making a bad name for others of their breed who are capable of love and compassion. Being known as a bully is not an excuse for bad behavior any more than it should be a label on others with a similar appearance.

So I won’t give up on Demon Dog. I had it out with him today and my message didn’t take. And I know I need to be honest with myself – it may never take. But as American actress Shay Mitchell put it “I realized that bullying never has to do with you. It’s the bully who’s insecure.”

He’s strong and confident (at least from what I can tell by his barking habits), but there must be something more there. A past. Some memories. A story that may explain where he came from and why he is the way he is. We all do. And in a world that frequently uses labels as excuses, I’m taking a stand for new beginnings. It’s better to try and fail than to never have tried at all.


24 Responses to “Try Try Again”

  1. scrapydo Says:

    Oh you are a dog so dear to my heart! I agree with, your way of handling the situation. You can go that far and then there must be an end or agreement of sorts. We also have a dog that always charges up to the wooden fence(she can’t see us through it only smell and that’s the problem). She will go made. At first I tried to be friends but she doesn’t want to be calm and at ease. Now my mom and I ignore her and just go past her and she will stop barking. But when my neighbor and her dogs pass she goes crazy! It is just because she is kept inside her garden and nobody goes in there. Paws up and keep up the good word.

  2. Please be careful of bully dog…my Mom was out walking Angel, who was here when I got here but is long gone now, and a bully dog came racing out of a yard and picked Angel up by the neck and shook her up and down….Mom was screaming and the owner came out and took the big bully dog away…Mom and Angel shok with fear all the way home. So, some buly dogs do bite when they get the chance.

    • Oh my goodness! That sounds so scary! It reminds me of that day – the day I try to forget – at the dog park…I was in a similar situation to Angel and it left its mark on me for sure. Take care,

  3. Kuruk Says:

    Wiley, best to stay away from the demon dog, especially on Halloween! BOOOWOOOBOOOOOOO!

  4. kiwiskan Says:

    In my experience dogs tend to pick up behaviors from their owners. There are very few dogs that are aggressive unless they are not treated well.

    • Lyn Says:

      Here here kiwiskan, I agree wholeheartedly. Wiles, you be careful! I don’t want to log on one day to have your Mom say you’ve been taken to the vet hospital xxx

  5. Basil Says:

    Stay safe little pal!

  6. I’m sure even Demon Doggy has a story to tell and some memories. I feel sorry for him. But please be careful, sometimes even dogs can misunderstand each other and that ends most not good. Stay save and have a Happy Howl-o-ween!

    • You’re right about that. I know he has his own memories and stories to tell. I feel sorry for him too, brother. I will take precaution though, don’t you worry.
      Happy Howl-o-ween to you!

  7. I wonder why his mom doesn’t help your neighbor dog learn how to be a good boy. If I bark, Mom helps me to stop. A bully-breed dog bit my neck once, but another bully-breed works at the VA with me. They’re just like people, I guess. Some are good and some are not so good.

    Love and licks,

    • This is where I feel somewhat torn, dear Cupcake. We are so lucky, you and I, to have Moms that take such good care of us and our manners. Not everyone is that fortunate. You’re right (as usual) though about there just being a few bad apples in the bunch. That’s life, I suppose. I just wish I could turn those bad apples into good ones. Ah, there’s that dreamer in me. 🙂
      Lots of love,

  8. huntmode Says:

    Wyles, I salute your good intentions. It is not the breed, it’s the dog and/or its owner. Keep an eye on that hole, bud – better yet, have your Dad check it and see about blocking access to your yard. HuntMode

  9. Reblogged this on Wiley's Wisdom and commented:

    A reminder of how grateful I am that these things have a way of working themselves out sometimes.

  10. Wiley, you are so very awesome! I wish everyone thought like you. Not all “bully breeds” are bullies. Just like not all chihuahuas are yappy ankle biters. A stereotype is a stereotype is a stereotype. *sigh*

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