I’m not sure what I expected. We are a little more than seven months into this journey of life change (otherwise known as pregnancy) and I’ve noticed some patterns.
Almost every time mom comes home from wherever those errand places are, she has some baby things. Diapers or wipes or onesies or sleepers. It’s like an addiction. I hear it’s called nesting and it’s normal. Meanwhile I find myself wondering whether mom realizes she will indeed still be able to leave the house after the baby is born. It’s not like the birth of my little person is the baby apocalypse.
Then there is dad. He is nesting in his own unique way. Projects. It’s become a weekly thing around here. One after the next after the next. It started with the wood trim, which he insisted would look better white. So he made it happen. Then came the kitchen table switcheroo – the nine-piece table formerly in our kitchen has been resigned to storage and replaced with a smaller five-piece version that dad has overhauled. What was once an outdated table now looks like something you’d see on one of those shows on HGTV, complete with bright colors and trendy new fabric seats.
It happened again today. Mom went grocery shopping and came back with an extra bag of baby goodies. And dad finished painting the trim in the bedroom. So I did what any dog would do. I slept the day away.
But I can’t stop thinking about these patterns. Especially dad’s since mom has basically been wearing her (pregnancy hormone driven) emotions on her sleeve. Dad holds such things a lot closer to the vest. I thought this might change or develop somehow during the pregnancy process, but it seems I was wrong.
Frankly, I think he’s freaked. And these projects are his way of focusing at least some of that nervous energy on forward progress. I wouldn’t say that’s a bad thing, since most of what he’s working on he’s been talking about since I first came into my forever home. There’s no time like the present, as they say.
I don’t know what I expected but I do know one thing for sure. He shouldn’t be nervous. American writer Clarence Budington Kelland said it best. “He didn’t tell me how to live,” as American writer Clarence Budington Kelland said, “he lived, and let me watch him do it.” I’ve seen him with the nieces and nephews (otherwise known as my favorite little people). I’ve watched him take care of mom after her knee surgery. And I’ve lived it. Firsthand.
Sure, he was a little hesitant to let me into his heart (similar to him being nervous about having a baby in the house). But he’s a great dad. I couldn’t ask for someone more caring and fun and loving (even though he still won’t admit he loves me). He lives, and I am a better doggie because I watch him do it.
yay for babies!
π High paw to that!
“Frankly, I think heβs freaked.” Uh yep. Too bad, you can’t put a leash on him and take him for a walk, Wylie!
Oh goodness – now that would be fun! Especially since it’s usually mom who does the walking with me. π
Your dad sounds like he’ll do fine. These projects are good practice for when he needs to put together bikes, doll houses, erector sets, tree houses, cozy coup cars, and mechanical dinosaurs. He’s ready!
Love and licks,
Cupcake
Dear Cupcake,
I love the idea of dad putting together all those things! It all sounds so much more fun than painting all the trim in the house white. π
Lots of love,
Wiles
I know this pheomenon, Wiley. (think it’s an ancient thingy what came from Baby-lon) Mom’s cousin had this too and it ended with 72!!! rompers in pink :o) You should keep calm and maybe you can drink some bottles of baby-cham’s meanwhile LOL btw: the baby of the cousin was a BOY :o)
Oh goodness….I fear that may happen with my people too. They did find out the sex of the baby (though mom has been trying her best to keep it a secret), which has resulted in a biased sort of preparation of things. What if the ultrasound was wrong? Then we’re in trouble, dear brother. π But I know they’ll make it work regardless. We’re good at that around here.
Lots of love,
Wiles
The cousin “felt” that it will be a girl not matter what the ultrasound said :o)
Mom still thinks it might be a girl too. π
We know your parents are going to be amazing, I think all you can do for now pal is to be there for them!
Aw…my people were touched by your words. Thank you!
When the baby arrives the love you all have for each other will grow even bigger! Just you wait and see π
Dear Linda,
I fear you’re right….I didn’t even know I was capable of a bigger love, and yet I know it’s coming. I can’t wait!
Lots of love to you,
Wiles
Yep, Wiley, you’re into the Home Stretch and are about to be in for Big Changes – so hang on for dear life!! π
I’ve got life by the skin of my tail these days! π
Once he bonds with the baby, all this will be a distant memory. Just like when he developed a deep connection with you, Wiley.
That’s a great point, dear friend!
Thank you,
Wiles
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Daddy nesting is a thing too.
We all are better people and fur folk for having these people live their lives and letting us see them do it.
He, he. Let’s hope he’s not as freaked, but still so energetic, for this second baby!