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Joy: From the Ground Up

All I Want for Christmas December 11, 2013

It’s pretty ridiculous. I might even get in trouble with mom for sharing the details. But it brings me joy and, as I am in the business of sharing joy, I can no longer keep this particular holiday ritual a secret.

Every time Mariah Carey’s “All I Want for Christmas is You” comes on the radio is go time. It’s like a trigger for silliness. There is dancing (the kind that doesn’t particularly follow the beat) and galloping around the house. And joy. Lots of joy. It doesn’t matter where they are or who they are with, because it’s a family tradition. It’s as simple as that.All I Want

Apparently it started in my mom’s family a few years back when her dad was still alive. He had about as much rhythm as a broom but that didn’t stop him from joining in the fun. It’s my understanding he even took the lead every now and then.

It’s a memory that seems to bring about bittersweet emotions for my mom at least once during the holiday season. I know she misses him. He passed away suddenly in June 2009 and she never got to say goodbye. And now she grieves the loss in knowing our future little person will never know his grandpa.

The circle of life is funny that way – it finds ways to help us remember things we would sometimes rather push aside. And in this case grief is brought to life in joy, which is especially perplexing. But I suppose that makes sense because loss itself is a confusing thing. It isn’t easy regardless of how it happens. And everyone deals with it differently. But regardless of the circumstances, it evolves.

“Grief is in two parts,” suggested American writer Anne Roiphe. “The first is loss. The second is the remaking of life.”

The second is the remaking of life. I think that’s what happens every time that song comes on the radio. A little part of what was broken is mended. And we all are reminded to cherish the most important gift we have – each other. I’m with Mariah on this one. All I want for Christmas is my people. So I say bring on the silliness. Bring on the dancing and stomping and galloping around the house. Bring on the joy. Because sometimes there is no better way to grieve than to live.


27 Responses to “All I Want for Christmas”

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  2. huntmode Says:

    Oh my word, Wyles! You are just getting better and better. I know your 365 days of writing are coming to an end, but you’ll break my heart if you stop. Love HuntMode

  3. orestgtd Says:

    β€œGrief is in two parts… The second is the remaking of life.” That’s a great life lesson to remember.

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  5. utesmile Says:

    I love what you wrote today ( I love all days ) but this hits home for me too, as I lost my dad early this year and I miss him so much. It is good to read “The first is loss. The second is the remaking of life.” Thanks Wiley!
    I do love that song too very much and I agree with it, all I want is love!

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  7. What a wonderful way for your mom to remember her dad. I’m sure every time she dances in the joy of that song her dad is dancing, too. And smiling in the knowledge that her heart is mending. xoxo

    Love and licks,

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  9. Sounds like a brilliant tradition!

  10. I agree with you Wiley, we miss all those we lost too. I like this tradition, someone said when you dance like crazy ( even like a broom) you can dance the sorrows and the grief away. I agree with Mariah too, to have each other is all what we need.

  11. Sandy Says:

    I had to go watch the video 4 times tonight after reading your post – although my dancing is better in my head than through my feet. I prefer the black and white version with Mariah dressed in the go-go white boots. I’m sorry that your mom lost her dad, but it must help to have that memory of experiencing joy with the family when this holiday favorite comes on the radio.

    • I’m so glad I inspired you to watch/listen to such a joyful video, even if the dancing happened in your head rather than your feet. I find sometimes it’s better there anyway because that’s when we truly do dance like no one is watching. πŸ˜‰
      Lots of love,

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