Wiley's Wisdom

Joy: From the Ground Up

A Lesson In Sacrifice December 23, 2013

Disgruntled, disheveled and exhausted. Or in other words crabby. That’s how mom came home today from that place called work. Apparently her mood was reflective of the majority of the folks with whom she came into contact today. People who wanted things done. Now. Unless yesterday is possible, in which case they would prefer that.

The truth is, on a day like today, you are only one person who can really only do one thing: your best. I got the impression that’s what she did, but it sure took its toll on her emotions. She looked like she could cry the moment she walked in the door. And my keen attentiveness to such things informs me this would most definitely not have been tears of joy.

Watching and waitingThat’s when it happened. Just as she came through the door, dad stepped up to the plate. He took one for the team. I was ready with all my usual tactics for brining joy into a room and dad beat me to it. He swept her away to some place immediately upon her arrival home and when they returned they were laughing. No more almost tears. It was really something to see.

What mom doesn’t know is dad had a rough day too. He didn’t sleep much last night either. He’s overcome with worry of his own about all things pregnancy and labor and baby related. I’ve even been guilty of forgetting this in the last nine months. But none of that mattered in those crucial moments when mom got home. He pushed everything he was feeling aside to bring joy to mom.

I never really have to do such things. Sure, I worry and have my own things that evoke fear and stress. But for me, bringing joy to the lives of others rarely (if ever) involves sacrifice. The way I see it its ingrained in me as my work in my forever home. Except it’s not work because I love it so much. It’s part of what I’m meant to do.

Dad, on the other hand, definitely sacrificed his own thoughts and emotions to support mom tonight. And I’m proud of him. “If you want to be loved, be lovable,” suggested ancient Roman poet Ovid. Mom certainly wasn’t lovable upon returning home from that place called work today. Regardless of the reasons, she was an emotional wreck. But dad loves and cared for her anyway. And it worked. That’s the thing about selflessness – it tends to do the trick every time.


16 Responses to “A Lesson In Sacrifice”

  1. huntmode Says:

    Wow, Wyles, I wonder if we were reading the same stuff today. I came across some viral post and the title put me off and yet…something like 10 million hits… Seems like maybe your Dad read the same one or he is just built that way. Either way, it is a pleasure to know of such a man. Love HuntMode

    P.S. That article is this one: http://sethadamsmith.com/2013/11/02/marriage-isnt-for-you/

  2. rumpydog Says:

    Now that, to me, is an example of giving for the holiday season. What a wonderful story!

  3. Lyn Says:

    God bless your Dad, Wiles. What a wonderful display of selflessness and love!

  4. fredrieka Says:

    all the rush and cranky people. Peace to you

  5. utesmile Says:

    This is what makes a relationship super. Caring, lifting each other up when needed. I can see that your mum and dad will be great parents for the little person. You give them lots of joy and it is so good that they can give each other joy. Have a lovely Christmas with your beautiful family, enjoy whatever falls on the floor….. ๐ŸŽ

    • I couldn’t wait to tell you – A yummy treat just for me made its way to the floor today and I thought of you! It looked like a little mitten with doggie-safe frosting. It was delicious! ๐Ÿ™‚ I certainly am loved, and therefore I am blessed. Funny how that works. ๐Ÿ˜‰
      Lots of love to you and a Merry Christmas!!!

  6. Lucky Mama. She has a couple of good guys looking out for her.

    Love and licks,

  7. writetowag Says:

    You are so blessed to have such a loving family Wiles!!!! We send love, hugs and peaceful thoughts to both your parents tonight!!!! The world out there drains us, but LOVE heals!!!! May your night be wonderful!!!!

  8. Reblogged this on Wiley's Wisdom and commented:

    Or in other words crabby…

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