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Joy: From the Ground Up

Remembering The Before February 28, 2014

Filed under: Man's Best Friend — Wiley Schmidt @ 10:47 pm
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It seems like a given. Like one of those things that is simply understood. No words required. But sometimes I don’t think that’s enough. For the last year or so, our threesome (dad, mom and I) has been evolving to include baby Carter. First while mom was pregnant, and especially now that he’s here, he comes first.

I’m not saying that’s a bad thing. Nor do I feel jealous of the attention. But I have noticed something – a change in how mom and dad interact with and treat each other. They’ve gone from simply being husband and wife to being parents. And let’s face it – that involves a whole other job description.Family Love

Not to mention how easy it is to get lost in the eat, wake, sleep cycle of a newborn. It’s easy to forget the before. The before when it was just mom and dad and their love for each other (and me, of course). The before when all they had was each other, in sickness and in health, ’til death does them part. All that has changed (for the better now), but that doesn’t negate what they had before.

So I was overjoyed tonight when they went on a date – their first since Carter was born almost two months ago. They left Carter and I in the kind and loving hands of a friend to go to their favorite restaurant for dinner. It was hardly an extravagance, but it didn’t need to be. It reminded them of the before and how much that still means in the now.

It all got me to thinking of how important it is to not get too caught up in routines and life’s diaper changes. How much it means to remember the loved ones who make it all possible. Moreover, the special chosen circles of trust that make life a better place to live. Because it seems like a given. And when there is so much going on around us, it might be simply understood. No words required. But that doesn’t mean actions aren’t necessary every now and then to show we still care. And all things that seem like a given began as just that – a gift.


11 Responses to “Remembering The Before”

  1. A date is fun. It’s a good thing the babysitter had you there to make sure things went as required, Wiles. Well done.
    Love and licks,

  2. utesmile Says:

    Great, your parents need to do something for themselves too and have a great loving time together. Sure they enjoyed it very much.

    • They sure did…though mom seemed a little sad when they returned home and baby Carter was already in bed….so she did what you’re not supposed to do and picked him up to rock him a little extra and kiss him on the forehead. I don’t know why its advised not to do such a lovely thing. 🙂
      Lots of love,

  3. Lyn Says:

    Oh I’m so glad your Mom and Dad took time out just for themselves. That’s really, really important because it means they can relax and have a little piece of “the before.” Give them a high-five for me for doing this very wise and very necessary act of togetherness. Lots of love to you all xxx

    • Guess what, friend? My people and I LOVE high fives (or in my case, a high paw!). Thank you for your words of love and encouragement – they are always welcome around here. 😉
      Lots of love to you,

  4. huntmode Says:

    Wyles, this might be your March’s best line, “And all things that seem like a given began as just that – a gift.” – wonderful, dawg, just wonderful!

  5. Sandy Says:

    Hi Wiley – I’m so late that I wasn’t going to comment, but I thought I would anyways since I really liked your post today. I just wanted to say that I’m glad that you aren’t upset that Carter comes first right now. Carter is so young and has so many needs, but I know that your Mom and Dad are always thinking of you too. It is so nice to have a kind and trusted friend that can watch Carter and hang out with you while Mom and Dad get to spend some time together and recharge. At some point, I can imagine all of you going somewhere like a walk in the park or a picnic together – you all have so much to look forward to!

    • I’m so glad you did comment! It’s never too late to say hello around here. Please always know that. And thank you for your kind words – as always, they bring joy to my heart. (And mom’s as I shared them with her as well.)
      Lots of love,

  6. Reblogged this on Wiley's Wisdom and commented:

    It all got me to thinking of how important it is to not get too caught up in routines…

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