I told you so. I don’t often say such things, but in this case I need to take credit where credit is due. I said it six months ago and I will say it again. Too much is too much when it comes to the ridiculously copious amounts of baby things people can buy these days.
In my opinion it’s an awful tirade on the hormonal instability of first-time expectant mothers who are by nature on a quest to nest. Sure, the purchase of baby things had a direct inverse relationship to the amount of doggie things coming through the door of my forever home. But that didn’t bother me like this does.
Ultimately, it’s just stuff. That’s what dad said tonight as we got Carter ready for bedtime. If we’d only known what we really needed, he said. That is exactly true. But as life would have it, you often don’t know these things until you’re living through them. And while experience has demonstrated the importance of baby accoutrement like the Boppy pillow, sleep sacks, and sleepers that zip (rather than snap), I have developed my own list of necessities for surviving those crucial first weeks as a new parent.
1. Sleep. Get it when you can. It doesn’t matter if its five minutes or five hours. Every little bit counts. (Almost) everything else stems from this.
2. Patience. It’s happened to mom. It’s happened to dad. Sometimes there just isn’t enough patience to go around. But any time you can catch yourself and remember to be patient is better than a time you didn’t.
3. Love. I’m not talking puppy love. I’m talking the unconditional love us canines have so graciously mastered. It’s not always easy to speak and act in love when you’re overtired and hungry and can’t remember the last time you showered, but it is a worthwhile investment that pays priceless dividends.
4. Family. Whether they are blood relatives or family friends, it really does take a village. Also, it helps if this village brings food whenever possible. That’s the last thing on the mind of an overtired set of parents even though it’s entirely vital.
5. Joy. It’s the only defense against the stress.
Things you won’t find on this list? An extra dozen pacifiers. Or three different kinds of receiving blankets. Or even that silly Bumbo chair. And that’s just during pregnancy. Needs can blur with wants in any scenario life hands us. But regardless of where you are in your walk of life, the lesson remains the same. Needs and wants can get a little fuzzy sometimes, but the best things are those money can’t buy.
Now that brings back memories about my own babies, they are all older now. I was thinking about you yesterday Wiles and thought that I should pop in here and see how things are going. You must let mom sleep as much as she can right now…and you stay just as sweet as you are.
I’m so glad you decided to come visit me again! I love seeing old friends. 🙂 Thank you for your kind words and for being a pal.
Lots of love,
Hang in there – you list should cover the hardest parts!
I think so too! It’s all uphill from here! 🙂
You are the wisest doggie I know, and as always so so right, The list is perfect and no one outgrows it either like clothes for babies. Carter is such a sweet little baby I could just cuddle him after we had a great cuddle Wiles! Much love to you and your wonderful family!
Oh my goodness, dear friend! You nailed something on the head here. What is with babies outgrowing clothes so quickly? Goodness gracious, this has been a side show of its own for me. 🙂 Thank you for your hugs, cuddles and (most importantly) your love.
Lots of love to you,
You’re right of course, Wiles. You’ve narrowed down the real needs of a family. Meanwhile, I think a dozen extra pacifiers can be a lot of fun for you!
Love and licks,
You’re always a step (or two) ahead of me, dear Cupcake! Great thinking with the pacifiers! The hunt starts now. 😉
With joy you can bear all things, even to sleep at uncommon times :o)
This is true. Your words of wisdom never cease to inspire me, dear brother. 🙂
Mom remembers those days and is hoping her human son will get married and give her grand babies
Oh how lovely that would be to have grand babies! I hear grandparents have a different kind of fun with them – something about less responsibility and more silliness. Sounds fun to me!
Lots of love,
Although I don’t have any personal experience in this area, your list and reasons make alot of sense. Sometimes the simple things like finding joy or patience can be the hardest things – that is where family (and that includes you Wiley) and friends can help alot.
p.s. I don’t know if he is sitting in a Bumbo chair, but Carter is so cute in that picture!
For lacking experience, you know your stuff! Your words are wise and ring true every day. Especially that bit about the Bumbo chair – it is indeed what he is sitting in. 🙂
Lots of love,
Perfect list, Wyles! I like the acronym H.A.L.T. – never get too hungry, too angry, too lonely or too tired. By themselves, hard day, one or two or three – VERY hard day. Give ’em all a wet nose kiss from us, please.
I love that HALT idea! And I did pass along the nose kisses. 😉
Lots of love,
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Joy. It’s the only defense against stress.