It doesn’t happen often, but I think I spotted it today. The moment was fleeting, but it was there.
Every now and then, I think mom misses her old life. The one where she went to that place called work every day and talked with friends and customers and came home and made dinner and her and dad spent time together reminiscing and watching an occasional movie or playing a game. The one involving fancy business clothes and the lunch meetings at fancy restaurants. The one when there was more money coming in every month.
Cabin fever was the culprit when it happened today. I’m sure of that. With temperatures as frigidly cold as they have been, she has been working from home a little more than usual because negative degree temperatures are nothing dear baby Carter should have to face.
And I’ve found something about days like this. The life of a mom. From the ground up, it’s not very glamorous.
Take today, for example. At one point this morning, mom had sleeves covered in some sort of baby food sludge. Carter had just managed to spill over the neatly folded basket of laundry onto the not-quite-dry kitchen floor into a heap of pants, shirts and pajamas. This happened about five minutes after he broke a measuring cup into hundreds of pieces all over the floor, which was already littered with the contents of several cabinets.
Mom scooped him into her arms to see if she could find something to occupy him long enough to allow her to reorganize the laundry. And that’s when it happened.
He grabbed her glasses off her face in a way only he can do and threw them on the floor. I saw it in that moment; one which I’m certain most moms have from time to time. I can’t even think of the best words to describe the feelings that I saw in the eyes of my dear forever mom. It doesn’t happen often, but it happened today.
And it didn’t last long. A few minutes went by before a sense of peace and order was restored, albeit brief. (It didn’t take long for Carter to create some other mess that would evoke fear and terror into the mind of any maid or housekeeper.)
Meanwhile, mom sat down to resume her work, and I noticed her take her glasses back off for a second. I watched as she examined her lenses, noting the tiny little fingerprints that were still very much plastered all over the place. I watched her smile the smile I’ve only seen since Carter was born. And I watched as she put the glasses back on without cleaning them.
She may have those moments from time to time. When she longs for the suits and lunches and all things business she left behind. When she wishes for the manicures and pedicures and massages that are for the most part a thing of the past. When she wants to be just her again.
But she’s a mom now. And that means she has tiny little fingerprints on her heart that can’t ever be washed away.
Awwww. What a sweet kind of mess to have on your mom’s glasses. Sometimes, I accidentally slurp Mom’s glasses when I’m kissing her. She says the word “That’s disgusting.” Same thing…. Kinda….
Love and licks,
Dear Carter & Wiley’s Mom,
Almost six years ago, I was in the same place you were. I was living on my own, had a great job, did whatever I wanted, had money, and friends. Now, I am the Mom to two beautiful dogs, stay at home, have no job, no money, and yes, I have felt the same way you have felt today, many times. But I try not to think of my nice clothes I had which are packed away in boxes in the basement, rather I enjoy each day in my new found love of comfy sweatpants, or shorts & flip flops in the summer. Life has changed, but in a good way.