It’s one of those things I’m glad us canines never have to worry about. We are what we are, and (other than our breed, I suppose) it really is as simple as that. We don’t have labels for things. Not like people with their relationship statuses anyway.
Single. Widowed. Divorced. Married. It’s complicated.
Indeed it is complicated, and not in a good way. Because in my mind there is something that unites all of these labels together in spite of society’s attempts to identify separate groups. Love. From the ground up, I find it to be a constantly evolving emotion that truly knows no bounds. Nor does it fit perfectly into any one of those boxes.
Around here, I saw this brought to life today in some intriguingly interesting ways. My dear forever mom worked mostly from home today, which means Carter and I got to enjoy a little extra time with her than usual. I watched as she put on her Energizer bunny hat, seeming determined to get some serious work done around here. When she wasn’t taking care of Carter, she was working. And when she wasn’t working, she was cleaning.
It probably doesn’t sound like much, but I could tell this particular round of chores had a special motive for her. My suspicions were confirmed when she (as she does quite often) explained to Carter and I what she was up to. Her goal was to get chores done today so her and my dear forever dad wouldn’t have to worry about them over the weekend. It was her little way, in addition to the gift and card she got him for Valentine’s Day tomorrow, to show her love.
So when the doorbell rang this afternoon, she was actually a bit irritated at first. How dare whoever is at the door interrupt her in while she was in the midst of her love-driven cleaning/organizing/working rampage? The tears came when she opened the door and saw what awaited her outside. Flowers. From dad, Carter and I.
And so we showed our love for mom in a slightly less practical way. (Though I will admit it was dad who took the lead with the idea).
Watching all of this happen reminded me of some pretty important features about this thing called love. It doesn’t have to fit into a box. Whether you’re single or have been married for 75 years, it finds its way into life in moments like these. As it should, I feel, for anyone you care about.
So tomorrow, as we in America pause to reflect on all things love, I’ve decided to stop to take stock of all of the loved ones in my life. Not just my forever family, but my extended families and friends and those I haven’t seen in a while and you out there in the blogosphere. I might not be able to show you with chores (or flowers), but believe me when I say from the bottom of my little doggie heart: I love you.
Flowers are always a big event! The love that they stand for is an even bigger event and that’s delivered every single day. Enjoy, buddy.
Love and licks,
We love you too, Wiles – very much. That was sweet for you guys to surprise your Mom with flowers. Hope you all have a wonderful Valentine’s Day xx
I love your blogs, but I hope you will take this suggestion about your writing. Please learn when to use “I” and when to use “ME” as well as when to use “HE/SHE” vs. “HER/HIM”. The easiest way to test what you’ve written is to drop the other name or pronoun. For instance, in your sentence in this blog: “My suspicions were confirmed when she explained to Carter and I.” If you drop “Carter” from the sentence, then read it, you’ll see that you should say “Carter and me” because you wouldn’t say she explained it to “I”. Following a preposition, it’s always “her/him/me/them”.
As I said, I really love your stories, Wiley, so I hope you accept this in the spirit it is offered. Best regards, Spike the basset hound and also for CObbler the corset (half Basset & half Corgi)