Wiley's Wisdom

Joy: From the Ground Up

On Everything and Nothing March 31, 2015

It starts the same every time. I can see it in the eyes of my dear forever mom from the moment she wakes. This is going to be a good day, she thinks. Today I will get it all done.

I have to say it has intensified since she became a mom to dear baby Carter. I guess it makes sense since he is a reason the list itself is naturally longer now than it was before. From laundry to doctors appointments to simply cleaning up after the messes a toddler tornado can make in a day, he is his very own list maker. Joy

Today was no different, as she set out to accomplish x, y, z for work, and clean the house and take Carter to the doctor over lunch, squeeze in a run to the store, accomplish a, b, c for work and make dinner. In itself, it wasn’t that unheard of for her to think she could do it all. Except that she’s still sick. And Carter is a little sick. And none of that is as easy to accomplish under those circumstances.

It hit her hard around 3 p.m. when she realized basically the only things that got done were x, y, z for work and Carter’s doctor appointment. The visit to the store was a failure, since she forgot the two things she went for in the first place. And she hadn’t had a second to eat a proper breakfast or lunch, let alone give a second thought to dinner or cleaning the house.

It ends the same every time. There’s a sense of defeat in the air and I can feel mom’s heavy heart weighing on her as if it were my own.

The thing is, I know she knows it as well as I do: the problem is sometimes “it” is legitimately impossible. Sometimes the list literally is too long to achieve. Sometimes you can’t do it all. And that’s okay. Because sometimes when you feel like you got nothing done, it means you got everything done you were meant to that day. And everything is always better than nothing.



4 Responses to “On Everything and Nothing”

  1. Lyn Says:

    Poor Mom 😦 she shouldn’t try to do too much — especially when she’s still unwell. If you could talk human, I know you would tell her, “Breathe in, breathe out, breathe in, breathe out. Tomorrow is another day and please, God, let Mom be a little better.”

  2. utesmile Says:

    Sometimes it is better not to have a list and just go with the flow… do x and don’t worry about y and z… no point rushing things. She is not so well and pregnant, keep it slow and easy…. well my advice! Have a relaxing love filled day !

  3. I knew as soon as I saw that list that it was legitimately impossible. You’re right, W. Whatever gets done is what needs to get done that day. That’s when it’s time to smile and breathe and say, “…tomorrow…”

    Love and licks,

  4. I feel with your mom, sometimes our day needs 87 hours instead of 24… and not even then you can solve all things you planned :o(

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