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Joy: From the Ground Up

All Kinds of (Awful) Wonderful May 9, 2015

Filed under: Man's Best Friend — Wiley Schmidt @ 8:12 pm

There’s a lot about what’s happening around here that I don’t understand. At least I’m in good company with my forever dad and dear baby Carter. A lot of what’s happening with mom at 35 weeks pregnant is completely beyond our scope of comprehension. In this way I’m a literal thinker.

The hospital bags are packed. The freezer is stocked with a few healthy freezer meal options. The nursery is ready. Perhaps most important of all, mom is ready. Small Smiles Make A Big Difference

I’ve watched her very closely throughout her pregnancy. She’s been patient and strong. She’s been brave. She doesn’t complain or whine about the pain or discomfort she’s obviously in. She’s been a soldier of sorts, marching on toward the goal of meeting this new little person. And she’s done it well.

But now is the time to be real. Everything is ready. The stage is set. And she’s hurting. A lot. I remember the same thing happening in the final weeks with Carter like it was yesterday. Which is why I felt a sense of relief recently when she had “the talk” with dad.

“I’m slowing down,” she admitted, almost as much to herself as to him. “Hard as I try, I don’t think I can do everything I want to do on a daily basis anymore.”

I was so proud of her in that moment. She may have felt defeated, but I saw her being strong by admitting her weaknesses right now. Especially since it’s my personal belief that it’s never a weak move to admit you need help. It’s strong. It’s brave.

I get that because I’m a literal thinker. From the ground up, I observe and understand most things except what is happening to mom right now. I can sympathize, but not empathize, and that drives me a little bit crazy sometimes. But I love her. I support her. I know she’s going through an awful kind of wonderful right now and that makes her one of the strongest people I know. I don’t need to understand to know that. To believe that as truth.


2 Responses to “All Kinds of (Awful) Wonderful”

  1. There’s a reason for the “slowing down.” Can’t argue with nature. Your mom is lucky to have you guys as her little support system. You’re all she needs right now….

    Love and licks,

  2. utesmile Says:

    It is just the waiting game now….. slow down and take it easy, as I can see all is prepared! Yay

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