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Joy: From the Ground Up

Still No Ice Cream May 14, 2015

Filed under: Man's Best Friend — Wiley Schmidt @ 10:11 pm

It’s kind of funny actually. Two nights ago all I could think about was ice cream. From what I could tell my forever parents forgot the tradition altogether. They remembered and acknowledged that it was my birthday but that’s where the party crashed.


I knew it had to be for good reason. And it was. Yesterday my second little person was born. A new life started. It was a beautiful day.

Now I have a different thing to obsess about. I can’t wait to meet him and sniff him and give him kisses. I can’t wait for all the food that falls to the ground or the hugs. I can’t wait to meet this new little man.

Maybe we can share a birthday ice cream next year.


It’s a Boy (again)! May 13, 2015

Filed under: Man's Best Friend — Wiley Schmidt @ 10:28 pm

My dear little person no. 2 was born today! He was 7 pounds, 6 ounces and 21 inches long. Born at 35 weeks, he’s being taken care of by special doctors and nurses and I guess that means I won’t get to meet him as soon but 8 sure am anxious to see him as soon as he’s able.



For Good Reason May 12, 2015

Filed under: Man's Best Friend — Wiley Schmidt @ 8:31 pm

All right, all right, I’ll admit it. I’m a little hurt. A lot hurt, actually. At least I was until I better understood what is going on today.

Today. May 12. The day when, for the last five years, we have celebrated my birthday, has all but come and gone with (almost) no recognition from my forever family. There were no presents. There was no birthday ice cream cone I always get. There was only a brief mention by mom this morning as dad left for that place called work that it was my birthday. Cue some extra love from dad. And a little extra love from mom throughout the day.

But I know my family and the day is now almost over. And nothing.

In most other situations I might consider letting this bother me as it did for the majority of the day. This is not a normal situation. This is not a normal day. Standing Strong

I figured that out after mom returned from a quick unscheduled visit to her doctor with news. “It could happen any time now,” she told dad, Carter and I. I’ve known she’s in pain. I’ve known she’s been struggling to do basic everyday tasks. But this somehow managed to take me by complete surprise. Dad too, for that matter. Carter carried on as he usually does, running amid screeching giggles throughout the house.

It hit the three of us then, in that moment, the truth we’ve known but somehow felt unreal until now. This is happening. There is going to be a new little person. Soon.

Mom cried. Dad got quiet. And I stood by, opting to set aside my prior disposition toward the day. They need me now more than ever. I know they love me as well as I know I will get that ice cream cone eventually. Sometimes special things get rescheduled to accommodate life. And that’s okay. Because this is life we’re talking about. And that’s worth shifting things around for.


Love’s Heartbeat

Filed under: Man's Best Friend — Wiley Schmidt @ 8:23 pm

Stability and hope are a powerful combination.

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I’ve seen it a million times in the last couple of months. So I’m not sure how I didn’t notice it sooner. A single moment transported me through time today, and I’m so thankful it did.

In the blink of an eye I was back with my birth mom and brothers all of those years ago. I was just a little pup and we were settling into our new locale on a chilly winter’s night. I didn’t give it a second thought and simply did what I always would do in that situation. I scrunched my shivering little body as small as I could, cuddled into mom, and listened for her heartbeat. As chaotic and uncertain as our lives were at that point, her heartbeat brought me peace. Stability. Hope. Cuddles

I felt these things today in such an powerfully different yet ironically similar way. I was snuggling myself into the…

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Taking it Easy May 11, 2015

Filed under: Man's Best Friend — Wiley Schmidt @ 8:56 pm

It’s another one of those things I think people could learn from their four-legged friends. Beyond that, it is certainly another one of the many situations when I wish I could speak up. Because I know the benefits first paw and it really is something straight from the pages of A Dog’s Life 101. Getting cozy

People need to learn to relax. Even though I’m certain I could literally run circles around my dear forever family, I chose not to. Instead I rest and am a silent watcher as the chaos unfolds around me. The schedules and the errands and the bills and the laundry…it’s all too much for me to even begin to comprehend. I know and respect that.

Yet I understand the importance of occasionally sitting down, taking a deep breath, and letting things carry on without you sometimes.

It took stern talking to from several people to make it happen, yet that is what mom finally did today. She called in “pregnant” to work and called in reinforcements to tend to Carter (for a portion of the day at least). And she did as she was told. She rested. She didn’t work. She didn’t open her computer. I caught her checking her phone too much, but I’ll allow that at least.

The point is she hit pause at a time when she really (really) needed to take a break. To take it easy. For the most part, I find these words to be so often disregarded for what they really are. Taking it easy doesn’t mean doing half of the to-do list. It means setting the to-do list aside altogether and enjoying the rejuvenation there can be in doing so. It means keeping the computer off and maybe even in another room so it doesn’t cause temptation. It means asking for help.

I know a lot of these things are hard for people to do just as well as I know everyone has their own personal interpretation of what it really means to relax. Yet to me it’s simple. It is another one of those things that makes me wish I could scream from the mountaintops. It is okay to stop sometimes. It is okay to say no. Beyond that, sometimes its necessary.

I may not be able to say so out loud, but I was proud of mom today for taking some time to simply be. People need that every once in a while.


With My Thoughts

Filed under: Man's Best Friend — Wiley Schmidt @ 6:13 pm

“You are the architect of your own destiny…” What will you design?

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I thought I had forgotten what it sounds like. Which is okay with me, since I never really cared for it in the first place. But I’m not going to lie. Today it wasn’t so bad. Silence. From the ground up, the sounds of silence brought me joy today.

It was the first day in what feels like a very long time that I was all alone at my forever home for an extended period of time. In the past, this would have made me a bit melancholy. I would have spent the majority of the time wishing I were with them on whatever adventure they were encountering. But today they took with them all things noisy and it wasn’t so bad. Deep thinking

I think everyone needs some alone time every now and then, so I can’t say I minded it. There I was, alone with my thoughts. Alone to count my blessings. Like my spot basking…

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Nothing Will Ever Change That May 10, 2015

Filed under: Man's Best Friend — Wiley Schmidt @ 8:50 pm

First she was a mom to only me. I was her fur baby. Her one and only. I think fondly upon those times, when we’d go to the dog park and I’d accompany her on car rides and we went on long walks and other journeys to nowhere in particular. Those were good times.

Then dear baby Carter was born and everything changed. I wasn’t number one anymore, and I didn’t handle it well at first. Don’t get me wrong, I was incredibly excited to finally meet my new little person. Beyond that I was thrilled to see the joy he brought my beloved forever parents (it made up for all the crying newborns do). But I didn’t like sharing the person who had truly become my person in my heart. Throwback to my first few days at my forever home

Soon there will be another little person and I find myself regressing back into a doggie depression just thinking about the reality of what that means for me. Those were some dark days for me when Carter first came home (literally, I hung out under the bed a lot). I don’t particularly want to let myself go back to that place emotionally.

So today I decided I won’t. I will fight the urge to be jealous and instead do what I can to soak up all the positive that comes from change like what’s about to happen around here. Because today, on the day we Americans celebrate mothers, that I’m not giving her the credit she deserves if I do anything other than trust that her love for me remains unchanged.

I feel it in her warmth. In her snuggles. In the precious alone time we get after Carter is sleeping. And today, I saw it in her delicate treatment of Carter as she appreciated him for making her a mom. I feel it when I see them snuggle together on the couch. Doubting her is not fair. Letting change get to me is disrespectful of how hard I see her work each and every day to be the very best mom (and wife and employee) she can be.

Even though she was only a mom to me at first. The time is gone now that I was her one and only and it was us against the world. I’m so proud to see what kind of mother she’s become. She’s my hero, and nothing will ever change that.

Happy Mother’s Day, mom!


If You Just Smile

Filed under: Man's Best Friend — Wiley Schmidt @ 6:55 pm

A smile. It really does go a long way.

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Let’s call it a sixth sense. Or maybe a seventh sense, because us canines always have an extra trick (0r three) up our proverbial sleeves. And it’s really pretty simple regardless of what most scientists might think. We four-legged friends are known to have a sense about people upon meeting them. Well, I’m about to reveal our secret.Smile

It’s a combination of things (both scientific and otherwise) that lead us to our instantaneous conclusions. Sights, sounds, and smells certainly play a crucial role. But (at least for me) it’s even more simple than that. It’s all about the person’s mouth. It’s capable of so much. We need it to eat. We need it to speak. We need it to live.

SmileAnd it’s the same for humans as it is for dogs. We can do the most damage with our mouths, to others and ultimately to ourselves. By what we say (bark)…

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All Kinds of (Awful) Wonderful May 9, 2015

Filed under: Man's Best Friend — Wiley Schmidt @ 8:12 pm

There’s a lot about what’s happening around here that I don’t understand. At least I’m in good company with my forever dad and dear baby Carter. A lot of what’s happening with mom at 35 weeks pregnant is completely beyond our scope of comprehension. In this way I’m a literal thinker.

The hospital bags are packed. The freezer is stocked with a few healthy freezer meal options. The nursery is ready. Perhaps most important of all, mom is ready. Small Smiles Make A Big Difference

I’ve watched her very closely throughout her pregnancy. She’s been patient and strong. She’s been brave. She doesn’t complain or whine about the pain or discomfort she’s obviously in. She’s been a soldier of sorts, marching on toward the goal of meeting this new little person. And she’s done it well.

But now is the time to be real. Everything is ready. The stage is set. And she’s hurting. A lot. I remember the same thing happening in the final weeks with Carter like it was yesterday. Which is why I felt a sense of relief recently when she had “the talk” with dad.

“I’m slowing down,” she admitted, almost as much to herself as to him. “Hard as I try, I don’t think I can do everything I want to do on a daily basis anymore.”

I was so proud of her in that moment. She may have felt defeated, but I saw her being strong by admitting her weaknesses right now. Especially since it’s my personal belief that it’s never a weak move to admit you need help. It’s strong. It’s brave.

I get that because I’m a literal thinker. From the ground up, I observe and understand most things except what is happening to mom right now. I can sympathize, but not empathize, and that drives me a little bit crazy sometimes. But I love her. I support her. I know she’s going through an awful kind of wonderful right now and that makes her one of the strongest people I know. I don’t need to understand to know that. To believe that as truth.


Ordinary Extraordinary Hero

Filed under: Man's Best Friend — Wiley Schmidt @ 7:45 pm

That moment remains frozen in time.

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My HeroesIt’s a moment my forever mom has dreamed about her whole life. And she didn’t even know it. She has gotten sneak peaks equivalent to movie trailers the last couple of months. But that could not have prepared her for what happened today.

Today, baby Carter became an ordinary extraordinary hero to me. Because today, he became an ordinary extraordinary hero to my mom. Sure, it’s happened before. But never like this. He smiled. On purpose. A lot. He smiled when she talked to him. He smiled when she laughed at him. And the best part? The smile got captured on camera. That moment will forever be frozen in time. And for me it will be frozen in my heart.

“I think that we all do heroic things, but a hero is not a noun, it’s a verb,” as American actor Robert Downey, Jr. suggests.Happy Doggie

It certainly rang true here in the…

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