You know something I’ve heard people say a whole lot that I think is a bunch of poppycock? God only gives us what we can handle. I say this as a regular and active observer of people in a wide variety of emotional situations. The people who returned me to the humane society. The people who cared for me at the humane society. And even my current people in my forever home.
Person one says this to person two, who generally nods and accepts a hug from person one. Person two thanks person one for the for the sentiment. Then, shortly after person one has either left or ended that portion of the conversation, person two gets really upset.
“God only gives us what we can handle?!” they say (sometimes scream). “I’ve never heard something so ridiculous/stupid/untrue/insert-swear-word-here in my life.” I’ve been witness to this verbal exchange often enough that not only do I recognize it, but I find myself wishing I could somehow console the clearly suffering person. I try, in my way, but I know there’s no antidote to their emotional strife.
Just like I was separated from my mom too soon, my forever mom was taken away from her dad. He was gone before I could have met him, but from what I can tell, he was a pretty neat guy. Not a born dog lover, but I know my charms would have easily won him over. He died suddenly, and I know mom has struggled with that.
More than once I’ve seen her stop and look away from herself in the mirror, just like Breathnach talks about in today’s challenge to be who you were meant to be. I’ve seen her cry, and heard her question her direction in life. Sometimes she talks to me about her feelings and I wish more than anything I could tell her I understand (at least the majority) of what she’s saying. I wish so badly I could comfort her in a better way than those that say that silly thing about what we can or cannot handle.
As my number one fan, I know she is reading my blog, so I will share with her what I would share from my experience with Simple Abundance today.
“Turn away from the world this year and begin to listen,” Breathnach writes. “Listen to the whispers of your heart. Look within. Your silent companion has lit lanterns of love to illuminate the path to Wholeness. At long last, the journey you were destined to take has begun.”
I love you mom. Let me be a lantern of love for you this year.
My mom’s pal has similar thoughts on this:
http://momentsbymissy.wordpress.com/2012/10/11/i-dont-know-where-these-words-came-from-but-im-pretty-sure-it-was-not-the-bible-and-i-wish-they-would-go-away/
BEAUTIFUL…thank you for finding me and bringing me here to your blog!
Thank YOU! I appreciate your kind words and look forward to reading more from you as well! 🙂
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This one makes mom cry.
It’s hard sometimes to stop and listen to one’s heart when advice or blather are coming from others. Sometimes it is best to stay away from those who bring us down or keep us from being positive or going in the direction that we are meant to. It’s a great reminder and I think this is a good post to repeat (again). Thanks Wiley and thanks to your mom for sharing.
You’re very right about it being best to stay by other lights than those who dim the light. Well said, dear friend.
Lots of love,
Wiles
So beautiful and very relevant – thank you pal!
Thank you!