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Joy: From the Ground Up

If At First You Don’t Succeed February 1, 2014

The way I see it, they don’t exist. And yet, every now and then, mom says something that seems so strange. It’s such a foreign idea to me, and yet it must be true. Not everyone is a dog person Wiley, she says, usually in response to me doing something she deems intrusive to one of our visitors. (Jumping into their arms the second they sit on the couch, for example).

How can that be? We are so great. We protect. We love unconditionally with all of our being. We never judge. We listen better than most people I know. There is a reason we are called man’s best friend. And yet, if mom says it, I suppose there might be some truth to this idea that perhaps not everyone who comes to my forever home is a dog person.

Most recently, it happened when mom’s friend was over for dinner. I have this habit of scavenging for any bits of crumbs that may have made their way onto the clothes of people when they are done eating. This, of course, follows another habit I’ve been trying to kick (and failing miserably) known as begging throughout the people eating process. I blame my starved puppyhood for my instinct to sniff out any lost bits of delicious smelling food I can. But I digress as apparently these are not behaviors of a “well-mannered” canine.Selfie with the non-dog lover

Regardless of my reasons, I’m definitely a cuddle bug. (At least that is what mom calls me). I snuggle and burrow into places I barely fit all the time just to be close to people. To show them my love. So when mom says this about not everyone being a dog person (therein apologizing for my bad manners) I can’t help but take offense. I do not apologize for the way I chose to share joy with people.

This may sound forward, but I would much rather be the dog who tries to convert even the non-dog-lovers than one who doesn’t bother trying. And it would seem I have my first convert. Her name is Dorian and she was pretty tense around me when I first met her. She and mom have been friends for 14 years so this was something mom knew about her friend – she was not a dog person. She would pet me hello but that’s about it. Well I have managed to change that. Now the two of us snuggle like the best of them. And I know it to be true because the last time she was here, she told me so.

She was in the process of cooing over Carter (something I’ve come quite accustomed to) when she said it. I love you too Wiles, she said, and I think you’ve changed my mind about four-legged friends. Well that was just about one of the best compliments I’ve ever gotten. It just goes to show you, you will never know if you don’t try.

“Try and fail, but don’t fail to try,” American author Stephen King suggested. I guess it’s possible that there are non-dog lovers out there. And they are definitely missing out. But if all of this has taught me something its that you can’t take these things at face value. Because it’s always worth it to try.


28 Responses to “If At First You Don’t Succeed”

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  2. kiwiskan Says:

    I don’t see how anyone could resist you for long Wiley…

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  4. utesmile Says:

    Wiley you are right, us humans should always try as well, try and try again as they say. Glad you succeeded with your mum’s friend. Specially when it is about showing your love, I think I couldn’t resist a cuddle with you. 🙂 “cuddlebug”
    Let me tell you something though: I was a fraid of dogs when I was a child and crossed the road just not to walk on the same side as a dog. My mum always refused to have any pets. One day I was running on a meadow with my sister (I was about 3 or 4) and fell then this big boxer ran to me stood over me and dribbled onto me. I was so scared, and I will never forget this. Now I know he didn’t want to do me any harm he wanted to play with us, but as a small child that was scary. We moved when I was 5 to the house where I grew up really and the neighbour had a dog, a sausage dog. She introduced me slowly and we went for walks together, letting me hold the lead and slowly I lost my fear of dogs. To be totally honest I am still not too comfortable with huge dogs. Well some of my friends have dogs like your size and they do welcome me nicely and jump on the sofa when I sit down, just like you. I give them my love and I enjoy that they are so welcoming and show me theirs. It is great to be so enthusiastically welcomed by them as well as by my friends.
    Big cuddle for you!

    • Thank you for sharing your story with me, dear friend. I understand what you mean about being scared of the big dogs, though I will admit us canines are pretty poor judges of size. I have a dog park friend Duke, who is a Great Dane. Mom tells me he is so much bigger than me but I play with him the same as I would with a Yorkie. Makes no difference to me. But now that my little person is around, I try not to scare him. One day I will be smaller than him, but until then I take care. I would hate to think of him being afraid of me, since I have such plans for us. I’m glad you have a place in your heart for smaller dogs like me – thank goodness! 🙂
      Lots of love,

  5. Lyn Says:

    Like Utesmile, I was terrified of dogs when I was little. Then when I was eight, my parents bought me a dog. They thought if we lived on a farm, I had to have a dog. That was when my lifelong love affair with dogs began. How anyone isn’t a “dog person” I’ll never know. You could sit on my lap, my shoulder or even my head. I’d love you no matter what, Wiles.

    • Thank heavens for that life-changing dog you met when you were eight! Tell me more about this fabulous creature. 😉 He or she is a hero of mine. Consider me an honorary snuggle buddy always.
      Lots of love,

  6. This is news to me that there are people who are NOT dog-lovers! I never imagined. I think it’s scandalous! Thank you, Wiles for turning them around one at a time. Bring them back from the dark side…..

    Love and licks,

    • Dear Cupcake,
      I am so sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but sadly it is true. Scandalous I know. 🙂 I will keep working on bringing anyone back from the dark side.
      Lots of love,

  7. I fortunately know no people who aren’t dog-lovers, but they really exist :o) But I think it’s always worth a try, you’re right, Wiley :o)

  8. huntmode Says:

    Wyles, greyhounds are great snugglers. We had a new crew of rescues come in a week or two ago and my friend brought home two of them; one to foster and the other to babysit until her new forever Mom came back into town. Oh! The temptation to keep the one who was going to a new home of great joy and love…. We were sitting on a couch that is maybe 8 feet long. Room for two adults and one greyhound – okay, maybe two greyhounds if one of the humans perch instead of resting against the couch pillows… This little (!) love bug saw the couch was full, and one paw at a time, delicately climbed up and over to sit on my lap. Grin. Later, when we had two greyhounds and two humans, she came again and with the same delicacy climbed up and sat on another greyhound. Laughter – now she loved cuddling!

  9. Basil Says:

    If anyone could achieve it it was you my pal!!

  10. I love that you don’t change to please the person – I am going to have to learn that skill from you!!

  11. Sandy Says:

    Hooray for converting your new friend!! Your persistence and cuddliness did it – and I think that although not everyone might love dogs, I’m thinking that everyone who spends time with you will at least say “I am scared of most dogs, but not Wiley”. Even that would be pretty impressive : )

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    There is no try.

  13. Thank you “Wiley doggie”, thank you for your perseverance, your patience, your humility, thank you for “keeping the love” when for our “Human Eyes”, “Horizon” looks “Blur”. “Always a lot of Huggins” for you, and some barking…”I guess”, from “Sweetie, and Candy”.

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